Who You Loving Valentine's Day and Beyond?

So many put a ton of effort into getting the right gift, the right card, going to the right dinner and setting the right mood, but don't know if it's with the right person!

Valentine's Day is a day built on love. For those who know they have found THE ONE and are nestled in the right relationship, there should be a monthly Valentine's Day. Those who are still speculating on him or her, need to understand that no amount of 'right' or perfect gift on one day will make a future with someone correct.

I spoke with a guy who just proposed to his long-time mate. He did everything a woman would want for her engagement; a two carat ring, special pomp and circumstance within a posh restaurant filled with lots of strangers surrounding them, so they could ogle at her gorgeous ring.  Even with all that, he stated he's not sure if he did the right thing with the right woman. WHAT? He succumbed to the pressure of her and her mother, only to now have ex's and 'friends' telling him he shouldn't have; he's second guessing his decision to propose. So, now he is in a precarious situation;  continue the farce or be honest and admit to her that he's not ready to marry and he's unsure about his future with her. 

Why even put yourself in that situation?  We can love a multitude of people for various reasons.  The one you request to spend the rest of your life with, however, you should love beyond measure.  It's not the value in a day {In this instance Valentine's Day} or the influences of persons around you, that makes for the proper timing when it comes to choosing your life mate. 

Treat every day as your opportunity to find out if the person you are with is truly THE ONE.  Peer and parental pressures aside, stand strong in your beliefs and your cautiousness.  After all, you are taking your time for some reason.  If you have done the homework and decide the person is right for you, but your friends don't see it the same way, then maybe it's your friendship that needs reevaluating!

Find the one who is the right fit.  No one else should have to tell you or push you to that realization.

Give HIM something to work with.

Okay, the title is self explanatory...don't you think??? Sometimes, however, it just isn't.

No matter what or who you pray to, you must give a higher power something to work with. It's a simple statement and sometimes easier said than done, but it can be done.

Giving up on everything and everyone and feeling total despair isn't what helps us get ahead. So, you went through a situation that wrecked your world or at least you felt it did. So, you made mistakes and have some regrets. It's just NOT the end of the world.

Give HIM something to work with. Realize that in every dark cloud there is a blessing and silver lining. They are not visible initially, but they are there.

Yes, times are hard and can be harder. Pray on your situation today. Be constant and vigilant, but most of all, believe what you ask for and BE SPECIFIC; don't leave HIM blessing. Tomorrow is the best opportunity we have for starting a new.

So, dust yourself off and plant a positive seed towards your future by giving HIM the approval to help work wonders in your life. It will bring about a change like you won't believe, but again, GIVE HIM SOMETHING TO WORK WITH. Think positive. Believe that your trouble won't last always. Know that this too shall pass and when it does, the light at the end of your journey will be bright enough to light a positive and happy future.