Who You Loving Valentine's Day and Beyond?

So many put a ton of effort into getting the right gift, the right card, going to the right dinner and setting the right mood, but don't know if it's with the right person!

Valentine's Day is a day built on love. For those who know they have found THE ONE and are nestled in the right relationship, there should be a monthly Valentine's Day. Those who are still speculating on him or her, need to understand that no amount of 'right' or perfect gift on one day will make a future with someone correct.

I spoke with a guy who just proposed to his long-time mate. He did everything a woman would want for her engagement; a two carat ring, special pomp and circumstance within a posh restaurant filled with lots of strangers surrounding them, so they could ogle at her gorgeous ring.  Even with all that, he stated he's not sure if he did the right thing with the right woman. WHAT? He succumbed to the pressure of her and her mother, only to now have ex's and 'friends' telling him he shouldn't have; he's second guessing his decision to propose. So, now he is in a precarious situation;  continue the farce or be honest and admit to her that he's not ready to marry and he's unsure about his future with her. 

Why even put yourself in that situation?  We can love a multitude of people for various reasons.  The one you request to spend the rest of your life with, however, you should love beyond measure.  It's not the value in a day {In this instance Valentine's Day} or the influences of persons around you, that makes for the proper timing when it comes to choosing your life mate. 

Treat every day as your opportunity to find out if the person you are with is truly THE ONE.  Peer and parental pressures aside, stand strong in your beliefs and your cautiousness.  After all, you are taking your time for some reason.  If you have done the homework and decide the person is right for you, but your friends don't see it the same way, then maybe it's your friendship that needs reevaluating!

Find the one who is the right fit.  No one else should have to tell you or push you to that realization.