For all those times you were left wondering... Guilty
For causing you to fail at one thing or another because you were consumed by them...Guilty
For holding you back from your hopes and dreams...Guilty
For abusing your sense of right and wrong...Guilty
For cheating on you...Guilty
For leaving you to be mother and father (and vice versa)...Guilty
For not listening to you when you needed them most...Guilty
For not loving you as you love them...Guilty
My point is when are you going to understand the person you were with is guilty of so many things but you should not be imprisoned by their faults?
When we come to understand what aspect a person played in our lives, then we can begin to realize that he or she served a purpose; positive or negative. We may not want to see it, but it's there.
*He or she never listened to you. Now you stress communication in all your relationships.
*He or she didn't share the same level of respect towards you as you did them. Now you will not take disrespect from anyone.
*He or she convinced you that you are less than what you were created to be. Now you hold your head up high and refuse to be looked upon as anything less than the great person you are.
*He or she cheated and you forgave them only to have them cheat again. Now you see the signs and move away from the mess before it consumes you.
*He or she never encouraged you to do the things you aspired to do. Now you are your only hold up; you see a goal and go for it.
Every person we have ever been in a relationship with leaves a stamp on our lives. That stamp, however, doesn't have to take over ever single thought or waking moment. Whether good or bad, the person's behavior, or lack there of, should have brought about some realizations.
The results of a poll posted on this blog made me realize we need to work on our beautiful souls more. I asked "are you still holding onto hurt and pain from a past relationship?" Of the 11 respondents four have let go, two are still holding on and five sort of let go. I'm thankful to them for their honesty.
Many of us refuse to move past what someone has said or done, and we hold onto things we should have let go some time ago. Sadly, some words leave bigger scars than wounds. When a good thing has gone bad, most words are used to hurt or harm a person's self-esteem or self-worth. People don't know how to walk away gracefully. Instead, they cast a lot of their own insecurities upon you and leave you second guessing yourself.
The reality is they are hurting as much or more than you are. Hurt people...hurt people. That's real. People who are hurt will hurt someone closest to them.
The person is guilty of so many things, but when do you walk away from your own guilty sentence? That person probably hasn't given much thought to what they have said; they have moved on. We, however, sit and continually add time onto our sentence by reliving those words and actions. We often try and convict the innocent person, our new encounter, for all the things someone is our past should remain guilty of.
Two wrongs will never make anything right. Nothing self-inflicted, however, has to be permanent. Stop allowing yourself to be infected by all the hateful and hurtful things others have said about you. Recognize the great person you are.
Realize that when you are certain about your actions no one's negative words or negative actions can affect you. Free yourself and rise above it all. Leave the negative behind in an empty jail cell.
For causing you to fail at one thing or another because you were consumed by them...Guilty
For holding you back from your hopes and dreams...Guilty
For abusing your sense of right and wrong...Guilty
For cheating on you...Guilty
For leaving you to be mother and father (and vice versa)...Guilty
For not listening to you when you needed them most...Guilty
For not loving you as you love them...Guilty
My point is when are you going to understand the person you were with is guilty of so many things but you should not be imprisoned by their faults?
When we come to understand what aspect a person played in our lives, then we can begin to realize that he or she served a purpose; positive or negative. We may not want to see it, but it's there.
*He or she never listened to you. Now you stress communication in all your relationships.
*He or she didn't share the same level of respect towards you as you did them. Now you will not take disrespect from anyone.
*He or she convinced you that you are less than what you were created to be. Now you hold your head up high and refuse to be looked upon as anything less than the great person you are.
*He or she cheated and you forgave them only to have them cheat again. Now you see the signs and move away from the mess before it consumes you.
*He or she never encouraged you to do the things you aspired to do. Now you are your only hold up; you see a goal and go for it.
Every person we have ever been in a relationship with leaves a stamp on our lives. That stamp, however, doesn't have to take over ever single thought or waking moment. Whether good or bad, the person's behavior, or lack there of, should have brought about some realizations.
The results of a poll posted on this blog made me realize we need to work on our beautiful souls more. I asked "are you still holding onto hurt and pain from a past relationship?" Of the 11 respondents four have let go, two are still holding on and five sort of let go. I'm thankful to them for their honesty.
Many of us refuse to move past what someone has said or done, and we hold onto things we should have let go some time ago. Sadly, some words leave bigger scars than wounds. When a good thing has gone bad, most words are used to hurt or harm a person's self-esteem or self-worth. People don't know how to walk away gracefully. Instead, they cast a lot of their own insecurities upon you and leave you second guessing yourself.
The reality is they are hurting as much or more than you are. Hurt people...hurt people. That's real. People who are hurt will hurt someone closest to them.
The person is guilty of so many things, but when do you walk away from your own guilty sentence? That person probably hasn't given much thought to what they have said; they have moved on. We, however, sit and continually add time onto our sentence by reliving those words and actions. We often try and convict the innocent person, our new encounter, for all the things someone is our past should remain guilty of.
Two wrongs will never make anything right. Nothing self-inflicted, however, has to be permanent. Stop allowing yourself to be infected by all the hateful and hurtful things others have said about you. Recognize the great person you are.
Realize that when you are certain about your actions no one's negative words or negative actions can affect you. Free yourself and rise above it all. Leave the negative behind in an empty jail cell.
(Photo courtesy of Google images)
No comments:
Post a Comment
Thanks so much for leaving a message. I hope you were blessed by what you read. Have a great day!