Life Lessons

In life we will go through trials and tribulations, joys, ups and downs. In everything we encounter, we should take a life lesson from it and use that lesson to grow. Situations and people are brought into or taken away from your life for a reason. Look for a life lesson from all your encounters.

If something great happened, look to find what steps you took in order to conquer a feat or obtain a goal. If someone walks out of your life, look to see what possible thing he or she may have left for you to learn from. People leave marks in our lives whether we realize it or not. If a situation leaves you determined to succeed or determined never to fail or succumb, find the lesson and use that to propel you past your current position in life.

Everything we endure will cast a light upon us; negative or positive. A lot of what we go through will change the way we think and the manner in which we do things. More often we will step away from a situation uncertain about what lay ahead for us. In most instances, we opt not to look at what we have gained from the person or situation; we don't heed the life lesson.

Some lessons are given to us through others. It is not coincidence that you are in a particular person's life when something great or terrible happens. It may be that life lesson was not for you to experience directly but indirectly you needed that lesson in order to change or redirect your path. Never discount the events in your life or lives around you. Everything happens for a reason.

Our life lessons come along to shape us and to build our character. Some life lessons even provide the steps we need to rise above certain people, situations or obstacles.

Live you life knowing that in everything there is a lesson, whether you see it or not. Never forget that whether a situation proves bad or good there is a blessing for you to find. Don't throw away the pages to your book of life by not taking in the lessons or at least taking note.

I saw this and thought it was so appropriate:
"God doesn't give you the people you want. He gives you the people you NEED; to help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you and to make you into the person you were meant to be. " -- Anonymous

Did you sink, swim or wade in the waters of life?

Did you sink, swim or wade in the waters of life after your last relationship?

To sink is to give into whatever a person put upon you at the end of the relationship. Your relationship cast a big weight of doubt upon you and left your mind, and heart heavy. Your self-esteem and self-worth has been rocked and you question so much about yourself and future relationship endeavors. In the end, you lack the energy required to move through the rest of your life.

To wade is not much better than sinking after a relationship. You resign yourself to consuming all a past relationship tossed upon you and are now content with remaining where you are in life and love. You know that you should be moving on, but staying in the waters of "hurt" makes you content. You're "maintaining," which means that you're not moving fast enough to truly stay afloat for very long.



To swim is to understand where you are in your life and to roll with the punches, after your relationship has ended. No matter the emotional stress your relationship put upon you, you realize that you're not to blame for the shortcomings of the person who you were with. Instead, you understand that the person had things with and within them that was not compatible to you. You swim knowing that you are no less of a person because of a failed relationship.

Far too often, we drown in the madness that surrounds us after a relationship is over. Sadly, we are also prone to bringing more weight with us while entering the waters of a fading(ed) relationship. We allow the person we were with to fill our hearts and minds with unnecessary things. We concentrate more on the negative of the relationship. We hold onto the minor "good" a relationship held and attempt to push those thoughts to the forefront as reason(s) for holding on.

Learn from a relationship's past experience(s). Find the lesson, learn from it and move on. Understand a person's role in your life is not as task master for your future. Instead, they may be the object you need to push you past a certain point in your life.



Everything happens for a reason. It may seem like the world has ended and you can't continue. Look for the blessing in everything and realize that the person wasn't meant for you because the relationship was allowing for your internal growth.



Swimming is great exercise. It works your body and heart. Choose to swim and get your entire self in order for the next great experience in love, life and living!!!

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Never

Never has so much finality to it, yet it's used so often. As defined by Dictionary.com,


Never  /ˈnɛvər/ –adverb
1. not ever; at no time: Such an idea never occurred to me.
2. not at all; absolutely not: never mind; This will never do.
3. to no extent or degree: He was never the wiser for his experience.

In this blog, I ask you to open your mind to the possibility that never doesn't exist in most of our lives.

I have yet to find a person who can say they have never (or will never) experience all life has to offer and/or throw at us. Typically, when we hear of someone being abused or caught up in something crazy, we'll quickly add "that will never be me" or "that will never happen to me," yet we don't know what life has in store for us or those in and around our lives.

You may believe that the actions of others do not affect you because of your current state. To say something will never happen to you and you still have so much life to live, however, is a stretch. Being judgmental of others and their situations is not a good trait. No one should be critical of others. No one's life is "perfect." Nothing in this life is perfect.

I wrote this blog in order for people to embrace the fact that we are not all going to deal with the same situations throughout this life, however, we will still have some trials and tribulations to endure. The thing that changes from individual to individual will be the level of difficulty in dealing with a particular situation and/or the time you spend laid up, out of commission or even sullen, while trying to understand why a particular thing has come into your life.

Albeit our tests won't be the same, our testimonies will. We need to learn from whatever ordeal/loss we suffer. In some small way, share it with another who has yet to face that particular issue or who may not be as strong as you to speak their troubles aloud. You never know who you're helping when you share.

Our trials come into our lives for a reason. Our trials come to make us strong. At times trials and tribulations come in order to show you something and/or to prepare you for the person who will approach you with a similar story or situation. Lift up one another and stop tearing the person(s) down because they went through something you may YET experience.

I say be cautious of what you say never to, because what we put out in the universe always returns.