Examine your breakfast as a relationship!

Think about this: The chicken is involved but the pig is committed. You get it?

On your plate lay scrambled eggs and bacon. You have two items that will both satisfy your hunger, yet both come into it unequal.

Let's break it down. The chicken laid an egg and contributed to the meal; he was involved. It had input into the meal, however, nothing monumental was given. If needed, the chicken can be involved in other aspects of that meal (aka relationships) or others. Mere involvement in your relationship is good, however, it really doesn't satisfy you if the chicken (your mate) can't commit. Knowing that you're involved and not committed is half stepping.

The pig, however, gave its life for the meal. There was no half stepping with the pig. In order for you to receive your bacon, that pig had to die; he had to commit. Commitment to your relationship shows true knowledge of the heart and which direction you and your mate are going in. Without commitment, there can be no fully satisfying relationship (meal).

See when we are simply involved in a relationship, we often times have a take it or leave it mentality; your head won't commit. When we commit, however, we're all in. There's no turning back. We go for it because our heart is settled.

So, which are you....the chicken or the pig? Are you simply involved in your relationship or are you committed? Chew on it!

Give HIM something to work with.

Okay, the title is self explanatory...don't you think??? Sometimes, however, it just isn't.

No matter what or who you pray to, you must give a higher power something to work with. It's a simple statement and sometimes easier said than done, but it can be done.

Giving up on everything and everyone and feeling total despair isn't what helps us get ahead. So, you went through a situation that wrecked your world or at least you felt it did. So, you made mistakes and have some regrets. It's just NOT the end of the world.

Give HIM something to work with. Realize that in every dark cloud there is a blessing and silver lining. They are not visible initially, but they are there.

Yes, times are hard and can be harder. Pray on your situation today. Be constant and vigilant, but most of all, believe what you ask for and BE SPECIFIC; don't leave HIM blessing. Tomorrow is the best opportunity we have for starting a new.

So, dust yourself off and plant a positive seed towards your future by giving HIM the approval to help work wonders in your life. It will bring about a change like you won't believe, but again, GIVE HIM SOMETHING TO WORK WITH. Think positive. Believe that your trouble won't last always. Know that this too shall pass and when it does, the light at the end of your journey will be bright enough to light a positive and happy future.

Pendulum Effect

Ever feel yourself swinging back and forth between people or situations in your life; those things and people good for you and those you should let go? Well, you are not alone.

We leave relationships that are not good for us and move on only to return in one way or another. The same exists with other negative situations; we find ourselves venturing back. We wish ourselves with the person who wasn't our perfect fit instead of forging ahead to a brand new beginning. We wish ourselves back in a situation that regrettably isn't worth our time and/or effort.

In the odd chance we move forward quickly, we compare the person we met to the one we broke up with. We use the small amount of good times from a bad, past relationship to judge the current, new person instead of looking at the person as their own entity.

What about going back to a relationship, that you were not satisfied in, is truly satisfying? You compliment that person that's done you wrong by wanting another go at a bad thing. Find yourself, find your worth and then forge ahead and find someone who will love you for all that you are. Don't pretend to be something you're not in order to satisfy another. Satisfy yourself first!

When that pendulum has finally stopped, MOVE ON and begin anew. It won't feel good when you start, but after you receive new joys, you will feel better!

Finally, I leave you with something to think about. Sometimes when you are right, you will still be wrong; when its worth it, you will make time, even when none exist; and when you are finally through, your heart will tell you, you've had enough.

Part of a One-on-One Relationship!

Ever feel like there is a part of your mate that is not with you at all times? When that happens, there is a reason for it.

Having part of person's presence and participation in your relationship is not the same as having them all to yourself. If you two agree to have an exclusive relationship, then agree fully to that exclusivity.

If you are the person not feeling the relationship and commitment, then speak to your mate about your feelings. Don't drag the relationship out hoping that things will get better or fade to black. If you are not into that person any longer, then it's best to let them go early instead of dragging the relationship on and eventually all parties involved get hurt.

Time has a way of showing us those things we need to see. More often, we ignore what we see in hopes the person's behavior or action is temporary. All that is done in the dark comes to light. If you can see and feel something wrong, then it's in the light and, therefore, you should pay attention to it.

Part of a one-on-one relationship is the same as being single. You and your mate cannot grow within your relationship if you are both wandering--mentally, physically or emotionally--away from the relationship. You cannot claim to be happy and satisfied within your relationship if you only receive part of someone.

Silence is not always golden. Do not leave your mate wondering how you feel. Do not accept the little bits and pieces you receive from your mate. Don't make excuses for them. In the end, it won't benefit either of you!

Don't settle. Realize that there is someone out there that will be a good fit for you. No one is perfect, however, the behavior within the relationship and towards the person should be....or pretty close to it!

Demand a one-on-one relationship because you deserve that and more.

A new year filled with new beginnings!

Welcome to 2010 ladies and gentlemen!

Last year is gone and a new year and decade has begun. Have you let all the unnecessary business of 2009 go? If not, then get to getting it done! lol

With the start of a new year, we can claim new beginnings and a fresh start to do all things we hoped to conquer but failed to complete in 2009. Now, don't get it twisted. This does NOT mean that you should carry over all the old energy on mislaid plans.

It is a new start and time for you to begin a 'new' venture in your life. No matter the size of your venture, beginning something new always helps to breath life into you. No need to make this a matter of finances. Volunteer to do something within a group or organization. You will bring a smile to someone else and you will feel better about helping someone.

If you are considering a scholastic venture, get to it! There is no better feeling than acquiring your degree. In the words of Nike, JUST DO IT!

Don't be burdened with negative people and events of 2009. If a person has departed you life, it was probably for a reason you can't see now, but will appreciate in time to come.

It's 2010!!! Let's get this party started by enhancing our BEAUTIFUL SOULS!!!