Learn how to stay in your lane!

Beep! Beep! Get out my lane!!!

You don't actually hear people make that statement, but you hear the horn. Some people make that "learn your lane" statement, by way of their actions every day.

Learning how to stay in your lane goes for most things in life. In this instance, it refers to a relationship or a non-relationship relationship. We need to learn how to maintain the proper perspective on our position in life as well as in and out of relationships.

If you entered into a relationship and you both agreed that you both want to maintain a 'friendship with benefits' type of relationship, then you must hold that lane. If you entered into a relationship and you both agreed to be exclusive, then you must maintain that lane. On the flip side if your relationship is over, then you need to realize that you should have exited the highway long ago. No need to hold on. No chasing down a person who does not want you on the same street as them. Notice the word both is italicized. There's no such thing as a team of one, no matter how hard you try.

Learn your lane. Realize that a situation has come about for a specific reason. No need to want to maintain the fast lane, when you're stuck in traffic in the slow lane and no one wants to let you over. Signal as you may, if the person you're with has certain intentions about you, then they will hold you to that position no matter how much you protest.

Learn how to stay in your lane. There's NO coincidence that most highways have at least three lanes. The fast lane; you and your mate are on the same path and moving forward. The middle lane; you and your mate can take it or leave it and nothing has been fully established. The slow lane; you can exit or maybe one person in the relationship already has. In either case, you don't and won't make it to any of the other lanes alone.

Learn your lane or learn how to let go! I wrote the "Let it Go" piece a while back because it was necessary for me to learn how to leave the past in the past; learn my lane. We all need to learn how to maintain our self-respect when it comes to certain situations. No need to profess something is when it clearly isn't. No one looks crazy but YOU!

Learn how to stay in your lane. If you're unsure about your lane, then that's a conversation you and your mate need to have to make sure you're both traveling at the same speed or better, in the same vehicle and direction.

So, if you hear someone beeping, and you know you're in the proper lane, check your rear view and keep it moving. When you are sure about your position in life and your relationship, you will have a clearer mindset when it comes to everything around you.

Realize you can't get any where driving reverse on a highway built to go forward!

Examine your breakfast as a relationship!

Think about this: The chicken is involved but the pig is committed. You get it?

On your plate lay scrambled eggs and bacon. You have two items that will both satisfy your hunger, yet both come into it unequal.

Let's break it down. The chicken laid an egg and contributed to the meal; he was involved. It had input into the meal, however, nothing monumental was given. If needed, the chicken can be involved in other aspects of that meal (aka relationships) or others. Mere involvement in your relationship is good, however, it really doesn't satisfy you if the chicken (your mate) can't commit. Knowing that you're involved and not committed is half stepping.

The pig, however, gave its life for the meal. There was no half stepping with the pig. In order for you to receive your bacon, that pig had to die; he had to commit. Commitment to your relationship shows true knowledge of the heart and which direction you and your mate are going in. Without commitment, there can be no fully satisfying relationship (meal).

See when we are simply involved in a relationship, we often times have a take it or leave it mentality; your head won't commit. When we commit, however, we're all in. There's no turning back. We go for it because our heart is settled.

So, which are you....the chicken or the pig? Are you simply involved in your relationship or are you committed? Chew on it!

Give HIM something to work with.

Okay, the title is self explanatory...don't you think??? Sometimes, however, it just isn't.

No matter what or who you pray to, you must give a higher power something to work with. It's a simple statement and sometimes easier said than done, but it can be done.

Giving up on everything and everyone and feeling total despair isn't what helps us get ahead. So, you went through a situation that wrecked your world or at least you felt it did. So, you made mistakes and have some regrets. It's just NOT the end of the world.

Give HIM something to work with. Realize that in every dark cloud there is a blessing and silver lining. They are not visible initially, but they are there.

Yes, times are hard and can be harder. Pray on your situation today. Be constant and vigilant, but most of all, believe what you ask for and BE SPECIFIC; don't leave HIM blessing. Tomorrow is the best opportunity we have for starting a new.

So, dust yourself off and plant a positive seed towards your future by giving HIM the approval to help work wonders in your life. It will bring about a change like you won't believe, but again, GIVE HIM SOMETHING TO WORK WITH. Think positive. Believe that your trouble won't last always. Know that this too shall pass and when it does, the light at the end of your journey will be bright enough to light a positive and happy future.

Pendulum Effect

Ever feel yourself swinging back and forth between people or situations in your life; those things and people good for you and those you should let go? Well, you are not alone.

We leave relationships that are not good for us and move on only to return in one way or another. The same exists with other negative situations; we find ourselves venturing back. We wish ourselves with the person who wasn't our perfect fit instead of forging ahead to a brand new beginning. We wish ourselves back in a situation that regrettably isn't worth our time and/or effort.

In the odd chance we move forward quickly, we compare the person we met to the one we broke up with. We use the small amount of good times from a bad, past relationship to judge the current, new person instead of looking at the person as their own entity.

What about going back to a relationship, that you were not satisfied in, is truly satisfying? You compliment that person that's done you wrong by wanting another go at a bad thing. Find yourself, find your worth and then forge ahead and find someone who will love you for all that you are. Don't pretend to be something you're not in order to satisfy another. Satisfy yourself first!

When that pendulum has finally stopped, MOVE ON and begin anew. It won't feel good when you start, but after you receive new joys, you will feel better!

Finally, I leave you with something to think about. Sometimes when you are right, you will still be wrong; when its worth it, you will make time, even when none exist; and when you are finally through, your heart will tell you, you've had enough.

Part of a One-on-One Relationship!

Ever feel like there is a part of your mate that is not with you at all times? When that happens, there is a reason for it.

Having part of person's presence and participation in your relationship is not the same as having them all to yourself. If you two agree to have an exclusive relationship, then agree fully to that exclusivity.

If you are the person not feeling the relationship and commitment, then speak to your mate about your feelings. Don't drag the relationship out hoping that things will get better or fade to black. If you are not into that person any longer, then it's best to let them go early instead of dragging the relationship on and eventually all parties involved get hurt.

Time has a way of showing us those things we need to see. More often, we ignore what we see in hopes the person's behavior or action is temporary. All that is done in the dark comes to light. If you can see and feel something wrong, then it's in the light and, therefore, you should pay attention to it.

Part of a one-on-one relationship is the same as being single. You and your mate cannot grow within your relationship if you are both wandering--mentally, physically or emotionally--away from the relationship. You cannot claim to be happy and satisfied within your relationship if you only receive part of someone.

Silence is not always golden. Do not leave your mate wondering how you feel. Do not accept the little bits and pieces you receive from your mate. Don't make excuses for them. In the end, it won't benefit either of you!

Don't settle. Realize that there is someone out there that will be a good fit for you. No one is perfect, however, the behavior within the relationship and towards the person should be....or pretty close to it!

Demand a one-on-one relationship because you deserve that and more.