Thanks for Giving

In this season of Thanksgiving we speak of thanks for those things which are material, but often do not recognize the smaller things for which we should be thankful.

Far too often you do so much for so many and never hear THANK YOU! You give and give and give far beyond your mental, physical and emotional means, and receive very little thanks in return. You are a special person and you deserve to at least be acknowledged for what you do for others. So, if no one has told you THANK YOU recently, then all me.....THANK YOU!!!

THANK YOU for being so open to giving from your heart.

THANK YOU for being the type of person that stands by your beliefs.

THANK YOU for allowing others to rest their weary selves on your shoulders, and you stand strong until they were ready to move.

THANK YOU for having such a big, open heart that more people flocked to you because they saw straight to your goodness.

THANK YOU for not allowing yourself to blame yourself for the shortcomings of others.

THANK YOU for not holding onto the hurt and pain.

THANK YOU FOR GIVING MORE OF YOURSELF THAN YOU EVER GOT IN RETURN!

I could go on, but you get the drift. STOP and take a minute to thank yourself for being the kind, generous and giving person that you are! You are exceptional. If no one else recognizes that fact, then I will for them and the others that didn't take a second to THANK YOU for being the wonderful person you are.

Don't lull in the selfishness of others, but swim in the knowledge that your reward shall come by way of others sooner than later.

Thanks for giving of your time, energy, heart, soul, effort and love. You shall have all your rewards soon enough!

Learn how to stay in your lane!

Beep! Beep! Get out my lane!!!

You don't actually hear people make that statement, but you hear the horn. Some people make that "learn your lane" statement, by way of their actions every day.

Learning how to stay in your lane goes for most things in life. In this instance, it refers to a relationship or a non-relationship relationship. We need to learn how to maintain the proper perspective on our position in life as well as in and out of relationships.

If you entered into a relationship and you both agreed that you both want to maintain a 'friendship with benefits' type of relationship, then you must hold that lane. If you entered into a relationship and you both agreed to be exclusive, then you must maintain that lane. On the flip side if your relationship is over, then you need to realize that you should have exited the highway long ago. No need to hold on. No chasing down a person who does not want you on the same street as them. Notice the word both is italicized. There's no such thing as a team of one, no matter how hard you try.

Learn your lane. Realize that a situation has come about for a specific reason. No need to want to maintain the fast lane, when you're stuck in traffic in the slow lane and no one wants to let you over. Signal as you may, if the person you're with has certain intentions about you, then they will hold you to that position no matter how much you protest.

Learn how to stay in your lane. There's NO coincidence that most highways have at least three lanes. The fast lane; you and your mate are on the same path and moving forward. The middle lane; you and your mate can take it or leave it and nothing has been fully established. The slow lane; you can exit or maybe one person in the relationship already has. In either case, you don't and won't make it to any of the other lanes alone.

Learn your lane or learn how to let go! I wrote the "Let it Go" piece a while back because it was necessary for me to learn how to leave the past in the past; learn my lane. We all need to learn how to maintain our self-respect when it comes to certain situations. No need to profess something is when it clearly isn't. No one looks crazy but YOU!

Learn how to stay in your lane. If you're unsure about your lane, then that's a conversation you and your mate need to have to make sure you're both traveling at the same speed or better, in the same vehicle and direction.

So, if you hear someone beeping, and you know you're in the proper lane, check your rear view and keep it moving. When you are sure about your position in life and your relationship, you will have a clearer mindset when it comes to everything around you.

Realize you can't get any where driving reverse on a highway built to go forward!